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How to give and accept constructive criticism

Constructive criticism isn’t just important at work—it matters in all areas of life, like with friends or family members living together. Constructive criticism means giving clear and practical advice. Instead of just saying things in general, it tells you exactly what you can do to improve. It’s straightforward, easy to understand, and easy to act on.

You have to lift a person up before you can really put them in their place.

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Constructive criticism helps everyone grow, whether it’s reaching goals or just making life better. It also makes relationships stronger by creating an open environment where people feel comfortable sharing thoughts and asking for help. Ultimately, it helps everyone understand expectations and how to meet them, whether at work or home. MORE: Top 5 Communication Coach Tips for Effective Communication

Giving constructive criticism

Offering helpful feedback can jumpstart improvement plans, skill development, and overall growth at work. Start with something positive, then mention areas for improvement, and end with another positive note.

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Use “I” language to talk about your feelings and experiences rather than pointing fingers. Focus on actions or behaviors by being specific about what needs to change. Mix in specific praise to highlight what’s going well alongside areas for improvement.

! Make feedback actionable by offering clear steps for improvement. Show empathy by considering the other person’s feelings and perspective.

Receiving constructive criticism

When it comes to receiving feedback, it’s essential to stay open-minded and willing to learn. Being receptive to criticism helps others feel comfortable giving feedback and supports your career growth. Don’t take criticism personally. Avoid getting defensive and listen actively without interrupting. Ask questions if something isn’t clear, and try to use more empathy to understand the other person’s viewpoint. More: 7 tips for communicating effectively in the workplace

Focusing on behavior, not person

The key is to communicate effectively without resorting to personal attacks. Instead of saying, “You get on my nerves,” it’s more helpful to address specific behaviors that bother us. By doing this, we separate the behavior from the individual, fostering a more constructive dialogue. Constructive criticism should be seen as an opportunity for growth rather than a personal attack.

Making mistakes doesn’t define us; it simply reflects our current state. Accepting criticism requires recognizing that perfection isn’t realistic and staying calm, understanding that the intention is to help us improve. It’s essential to reflect on why the criticism was given and how we can use it to better ourselves. In management, the principle of “praise-criticize-praise” can guide us in providing feedback effectively.

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The principle of “praise-criticize-praise” is a management approach often used in providing feedback to employees or team members. It involves structuring feedback in three stages:

  1. Praise: Begin by acknowledging the positive aspects of the individual’s performance or behavior. This sets a positive tone and reinforces desirable actions or qualities. It also helps to build confidence and motivation.
  2. Criticize: Provide constructive criticism or feedback on areas where improvement is needed. Be specific about the behavior or performance that needs addressing and offer suggestions for improvement. It’s essential to deliver criticism in a respectful and supportive manner, focusing on the behavior rather than the individual.
  3. Praise: End on a positive note by reaffirming the person’s strengths or highlighting any progress they’ve made. This helps to maintain morale and motivation, encouraging the individual to continue working on areas of improvement.

The “praise-criticize-praise” approach aims to balance constructive feedback with positive reinforcement, creating a supportive environment for growth and development.